When I first created The Potty Queen Method™, my work focused almost entirely on children under five.

These were the typical potty learning years, the time when most families expect their children to move from nappies to independence.

But something unexpected began to happen.

I was being contacted by families whose children were much older.

Six years old.
Seven years old.
Sometimes even ten.

These were not unusual families. They were thoughtful parents who had simply had a very difficult potty training experience when their children were younger.

And the consequences had lasted far longer than anyone expected.

The Hidden Struggle Many Families Face

Some of these children had developed a pattern of holding their pee all day at school, only releasing it once they arrived home.

Others would ask for a nappy to poo in, even though they were old enough to be in primary school.

Many children were still wearing nappies at night and had never been referred for assessment or support.

The problem was not that these families had done something wrong.

The problem was that they had been left alone to figure out something that is actually a complex developmental process.

What I realised very quickly was this.

The problem of stressful potty training was much bigger than I had imagined.

Children Who Had Lost Confidence

Many of the children I worked with had lost confidence in their own bodies.

Some had experienced constipation or pain.

Others had felt pressure, anxiety, or confusion during early potty training attempts.

By the time they reached me, parents were often exhausted and worried that their child might never feel comfortable using the toilet.

I also began working with children with additional needs, whose families had sometimes been told that independence might not be possible.

But with patience, the right environment, and careful guidance, change was possible.

The Work That Changed My Practice

Many of these cases took six to eight weeks to resolve.

They required thoughtful planning, consistency, and a deep understanding of child development.

But we did it.

Children who had been fearful of the toilet began to relax.

Children who had relied on nappies began to trust their bodies again.

And parents who had felt hopeless started to feel confident.

Before long my diary was filled with complex cases.

Doctors in Dubai began referring families to me, and I was spending most of my time supporting children who had experienced difficult potty training journeys.

But this created another problem.

I had very little time left to support families who were just beginning.

Why I Created The Potty Queen Method™

That realisation is what led me to create my course.

I wanted to make sure families had access to the knowledge that could prevent stressful potty training experiences from happening in the first place.

I wanted parents to understand how potty learning really works.

I wanted them to recognise the skills children build over time.

And most importantly, I wanted families to feel supported while they were learning.

That is why my programme does not simply provide information.

It also includes a weekly parent support group where families can ask questions, share challenges, and receive guidance along the way.

Because parents should never feel they are navigating this stage alone.

Preventing Stressful Potty Training

Potty learning should not become a long-term struggle for families.

With the right understanding, calm routines, and supportive guidance, children can develop confidence and independence at their own pace.

My hope is that by sharing this knowledge with more families, fewer children will ever experience the kind of stress I saw in those early complex cases.

Because when parents feel informed and supported, children feel safe.

And that is where real learning begins.

I hope I get to help your family

Best Wishes The Potty Queen

Lisa x